Death is a certain event that will happen in all our life. But do we ever speak about death? We never think about it in the first hand. It is also regarded as a taboo topic that no one wishes to speak in public gatherings. We would always get frightened when we think of what happens after death. To get rid of this negative thought and to make people more aware of death so that people could live in harmony, there are death cafes in many parts of the world.
At a Death Cafe people, often strangers, gather to eat cake, drink tea and discuss death. Their objective is ‘to increase awareness of death with a view to helping people make the most of their (finite) lives’. They discuss death with no agenda, objectives or themes. It is a discussion group rather than a grief support or counseling session.
“Death has a magical sort of quality about it”, says Jon Underwood, who as the founder of the Death Cafe. He encouraged people around the world to discuss, over tea and cake, life, the finality of life and why we fear it. The meetings, which began in 2011, were more about laughter than tears. People often talked less about how to die and started realizing how to live happily the one life they have.
Many people have a fear that by talking about death, it will attract death and make it more likely to happen. But the reality is understanding and accepting death can help us to reduce our fear and live a meaningful life. This is called death positivity. The hope is that death will become de-mystified and that as a result, society will be able to prepare for death and the grief that often follows. Moreover, it enables us to think about our own immediate lives and encourages us to lead the life we want to live.
“Death is not to be feared by one who had lived wisely.”